Somehow in my head she was excused from the usual body image issues most women seem to struggle with.
She seems to just exude body confidence.
So I admit, I was a little surprised that she — someone who was the first pregnant woman to pose naked on a magazine cover and who has since graced countless covers, well into her 40s — could have had any body image issues of her own, especially since she has one of the most coveted figures in Hollywood.
And now at 47, she and her husband, Ashton Kutcher, are talking about having a baby of their own. She opened up about how she hopes this time, it will be different.
In this recent People article shared with me by a friend, Demi says something that (I think) can only be truly understood through experience.
As for being a real-life mom, Moore suggests that next time around she might be less concerned with the effect a pregnancy could have on her figure.
“I had an extreme obsession with my body. I made it a measure of my own value. I tried to dominate it, which I did, and I changed it multiple times over,” she says. “But it never lasted and ultimately it didn’t bring me anything but temporary happiness. Does being thin resolve anything? No.”
She adds, “The irony is that when I abandoned that desire to dominate my body, it actually became the body that I always wanted. But it only happened when I stopped trying to control it. At the end of the day, this kind of obsession is pointless and meaningless.”
Wow. Not the kind of thing you expect to hear out of the mouth of a huge celebrity, right? I really appreciated hearing her honesty.
And I think Moore’s message is one we can all learn from, especially those of us (like myself) who have had issues in the past and are thinking about becoming moms in the next few years. Our bodies are not meant to be dominated or conquered, but rather loved and embraced.
It’s not an easy lesson to learn — and I’d be lying if I said I was 100% there — but I think there’s a lot of validity to what she says and hope to keep that in perspective when the time comes.
How about you? If you’ve been pregnant/are pregnant, how did it affect how you perceived yourself from a body image standpoint?