This is my latest blog post at WeAretheRealDeal. You can read it here or after the jump.
It’s not just going to be a new year when the clock turns midnight on December 31, but it’s also going to be a whole new DECADE for us all: no matter where you live, what you do, the color of your skin, the size of your jeans.
And it’s an opportunity for us to really have a fresh start. And who doesn’t love a fresh start?
Maybe this will be the decade you meet your soul-mate, fall in love, find your dream job, start a family, take that trip you’ve been dreaming about, repair a tenuous friendship/relationship, etc.
It goes without saying that a lot can happen in a decade.
I just turned 30 this past October, and when I think of what the 2000s have been for me it blows my mind that ten years ago, I was a college senior and 9/11 wasn’t even part of our collective vernacular, let alone psyche.
In the 2000s, I …
Met my now-husband; graduated college; endured 9/11 and its aftermath with the rest of the world (I was in NYC on 9/11 and lived in DC at the time); finished grad school; moved to El Salvador to teach English; dealt with long-distance international relationship for five years; visited my sister in London; joined Weight Watchers; got healthy (and then obsessive); got a new job; made it through my now-husband’s Iraq deployment; got engaged in Italy; lost my best male friend from college to cancer; left D.C. and moved to Michigan; got married to my college sweetie; got a new job (where I work now); saw a Real Madrid game in Madrid; began blogging and therapy to help me recover from disordered eating issues; gained a little weight back; made new friends, strengthened old ones, and lost some along the way; turned 30 …
All in all, it’s been one helluva decade! And now a totally new decade is beginning — a fresh start for us all.
Naturally, this time of year, you hear about people making resolutions — like wanting to lose X pounds, save X dollars, etc. — very finite, tangible, firm goals. For people like me who like structure and thrive off it, having tangible goals really works and helps keep them accountable and on track.
But for others, those seemingly-tangible goals are often thwarted within a few weeks when it gets too hard to balance a new activity, or they are too tired for the gym, or want to do something else with their money.
In these cases, expectations are often too high and remain unmet and then, later, discarded. They lose their vigor and vim for said resolutions and end up resentful and disappointed in ourselves for their self-proclaimed lack of willpower.
And the vicious cycle continues.
That said, I have to admit that I’m not big into making official New Year’s Resolutions but rather prefer having something broader to strive for.
Last year on my blog, I made a promise to myself that I’d make a concerted effort to simply “treat my body better.” This goal encompassed physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health/wellness and was deliberately vague and open to interpretation.
My mantra became, “My body is a temple.” And to actually turn those words into action, it meant resting when my muscles ached, getting more sleep, eating cleaner, and not engaging in disordered eating/exercise behaviors.
While I’m proud to say I stopped the disordered behaviors, I haven’t been so good about the other parts of this mantra.
Since I am a big believer in making goals and setting high expectations for myself, as we enter the new year, I’m feeling hopeful and full of vigor and vim that I can take this mantra to the next level and really live and breathe it to its fullest.
By putting it in writing here, I’m hoping to hold myself extra accountable. Hear me loud and clear: “My body is my temple.”
And I’m really looking forward to treating it as such in 2010; I think it’s the only way to find true body peace. Wish me luck!
How about you? What did 2000-2009 mean to you? Do you feel optimistic about 2010? And do you make resolutions or set goals? If so, does putting it in writing make it more real for you?