I seriously think men must just have thicker skin than women, because I have to say, I’m pretty sure I would have had to hold back tears had I been at the receiving end of the following exchange I heard this weekend at the gym.
Guy 1: “Getting a little chubby, eh?” with a twisted smile on his face (and yes, Guy 1 was a typical gym “meat-head”)
Guy 2: “Um…ha, ha, ha” (interject awkward laughter).
Guy 1: (attempting to redeem himself) “Let’s go do legs and back.”
And they went on their merry way.
Now here’s my thing. Most of us know when we’ve gained weight. If the gain isn’t welcome, it can make us feel uncomfortable, less confident.
Do we need someone to point it out to us!?
I wanted to say thanks, Captain Obvious …! Ugh.
But as it was none of my beeswax, I zipped my lips and filed this exchange in the back of my mind, realizing it’d be an interesting discussion here at WeAretheRealDeal, about men/body image/weight gain.
Because let’s be honest here. Guy 2 definitely didn’t appear thrilled to hear his friend’s comment … but he didn’t exactly high tail it to the locker room, either. Did Guy 2 talk to Guy 1 later and say his feelings were hurt? I have no idea.
All of which makes me wonder … do guys just have a tougher skin when it comes to body image? And if so, how can we, as women, learn from them?
How about you? Do you think the situation would have ever happened among women, and if so, how would you have reacted? Do you think men let comments like that roll off their backs, or do you think it would have hurt them? Are any guys out there willing to speak up about how they’d have reacted?