The Help Tab

help2Like any savvy blogger, I check my blog’s stats each day. I like to know how people are finding my blog, where they’re coming from … and — most importantly — what they’re clicking on.

While it’s always nice to see comments, or to see how many hits a particular entry got … or didn’t get, which sometimes happens, too … the data point that interests me most is how many people are clicking on the HELP page each day.

As it turns out, at least 267 people have clicked on the help link since I added it in late November. That means a lot to me.

Sure, I can’t guarantee that those clicks lead to someone actually seeking the help they need, or someone they care about needs. But knowing that in my own little way, I can offer people a place to turn, an organization to reach out to … makes me feel good, like I’m doing my part in this giant blogosphere.

If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know I’m a big proponent of therapy. Between traditional CBT therapy with Dr. G, and blogotherapy, I’ve been working through my own issues. I can’t credit it with “recovery” because to me, I’m a work in progress. But I knew I needed help, and I’m so glad I took the steps to get the help I so needed.

Which brings me to my next point. I think we all know that ultimately, until someone is ready to take the steps toward recovery, it won’t happen.

Denial usually fuels this “It’s not for me, I don’t need help, I’m ok as I am, I can go it alone” belief.

People can try to talk to us til they’re blue in the face … (I can’t tell you how many times friends/family members/my husband voiced their honest concern over my obsession with food, weight, control). Yet it took me seeing, “Houston, we have a problem,” before I could do something about it myself.

One day we wake up and literally think, “You know what? I don’t have to live like this forever. I don’t want to be this person I see in the mirror. She’s scary. She’s not me. She’s a shell of me, with no core … no heart, no joy.”

And, if we’re ready to overcome our challenge,… we start to break free from the chains … letting go one at a time, or busting loose from them all at once in a cataclysmic boom.

I’m not naïve; I know recovery doesn’t happen overnight. But I do believe we can recover, especially those of us on the border, on the fringe, on the brink …

For some on the cusp (like me, who in spite of my issues never engaged in binging/purging or anorexia)… it will perhaps require therapy, maybe a nutritionist to help us establish a healthier relationship with food (since food — or lack of it — is usally the coping mechanism for something else).

And for those battling true eating disorders, in-patient or out-patient care plus psychotherapy might be the best solution; everyone recovers at a different pace … sadly, some never recover at all.

(MamaV has a Memorial page on her blog dedicated to those who succumbed to their eating disorders or complications related to their ED).

Above all, I just think we need to want it for ourselves first. We’re worth it. This is just a little reminder, before the weekend, to please take care of yourselves.

I feel like I am in a good place right now … a healthy mindset. And I’d love to have company here!

How about you? Have you turned to the blogosphere or the Internet in general during a challenging time — eating disorder wise or otherwise?

9 thoughts on “The Help Tab

  1. I have found that reading blogs like yours have helped me to see that I’m not alone. I see a counsellor and she is someone who has made me see that my eating patterns and thinking is not just a little off. It’s a disorder. Something I’ve known but tried to perhaps deny for years. I’ve been on the cusp a lot. I don’t really like to label and I don’t know that it’s even worth it. I would like to improve from the point I’m at and have a healthy relationship with food. I see that it’s getting better and I owe a lot of that to the healthy blogs and also my counsellor as well as some fantastic books I’ve read.

    I think the blogs just help you to see different perspectives and ideas that you read about in a safe environment at home. You aren’t expected to immediately have an aha moment. There are no expectations. You read, you reflect, you learn, and you apply what you want… onto the next idea.

    I am always reading and learning so I find blogs are a way to see what other people are learning and thinking that I may have missed. It’s all information to help me in my recovery.

    It’s hard to find people in your daily life who truly understand what you are going through. Or maybe you just don’t know what is going through their heads because they don’t have a blog! At least this way you can connect to those you feel have ideas that are beneficial for you and to those you do not feel judged by.

  2. I think it is great that you have a help tab. I have a weight loss resources page and it also gets a lot of visits. I am always happy about that. I’ll never know what came of the view, but hopefully someone gets what they need to toe the starting line of a healthy life.

    You are so right about blogs and bloggers demonstrating different perspectives. I just had a pretty extensive comment discussion with a blog on one of my posts who totally disagrees with me that the journey is a difficult one. He says it is easy. I like the different perspectives.

  3. I like varying perspectives, too. Often people share them with me via email vs in the comments, but I do like to hear all sides. It helps us defend our positions or opens our eyes to something new.

  4. Hi! I just wanted to thank you for your very nice comment on my blog 🙂 That means so much to me. I’m adding you to my blogroll 🙂

  5. I have struggled with binge eating for 6 years and I kept it all inside. No one knew about it except my husband. I was too scared to get help. It was a very scary and lonely place.

    I have been reading your blog and others for a while now and two short weeks ago I found the courage to start my own blog, share my story, and reach out to others in this community. It’s been amazing how much support and comfort I have found in these two weeks, and I have learned more about myself and my disordered eating than I have in the past 6 years. It truly is amazing. I can’t believe I have waited this long to reach out! It’s great that you have the help links on your blog…I’m sure they are very helpful for so many people.

  6. I have turned to your blog in difficult times, and you really have helped. It is just a comfort knowing I am not alone in my thoughts and behaviors. Tomorrow I start hypnotherapy for my GI issues and I am hopinh to find clarity and peace with my eating issues as well.
    Thanks for everything you do!

  7. Thanks, Kim! I’ll do the same 🙂

    Hi Sara! I’ve learned keeping it inside only does more harm, but everyone is so different that different methods work better for some than others. I am so glad you are starting your own and are going to be reaching out to the community-you’l find support and comfort here, I am sure. Congrats on “coming out” — honestly, it’s such a relief sometimes to just put it out there. Because only then can you truly move forward, I’m convinced. Best o luck to you!!! 🙂 Hope to see you here.

    Thank you so much, Dori — best of luck tomorrow — I HATE GI issues, hoping you find peace!!

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