For me, it was my wedding day two years ago.
I’d never felt so beautiful in my waist-accentuated, fitted gown, all dolled up and ready to walk down the aisle to begin a future with the man I love …
And, feeling so beatiful, I radiated all day.
I don’t think I’m an exception here; it’s my hope that every bride feels gorgeous on her wedding day.
But aside from special occasions like that, if you’re like many women who suffer from body dysmorphia or negative body image, you probably don’t spend a lot of time preening at your own reflection.
It’s bad enough when we bash our own bodies, but now more than ever — especially thanks to the proliferation of celebrity-focused magazines and gossip blogs on the Web — women are bashing other women, too. It’s called “body snarking” and it’s getting ugly.
In fact, Glamour’s October editorial highlighted this sad trend we’re seeing in America, which basically describes the public equivalent of what women have been doing since the beginning of time in secret: body-bashing other women.
So-and-so still hasn’t lost her baby weight.
Did so-and-so eat a burrito or is she pregnant?
Boy, looks like so-and-so should put that Frappucino down.
I think so-and-so has gone all “ano” on us!
Look at so-and-so’s muffin top in those jeans!
It’s mean, it’s gossipy, it’s snarky, and it does absolutely nothing to help women struggling with body image everywhere.
Why are we so judgmental as a sex? Especially to our own kind?
So today, I’d like to offer us all a challenge. Instead of looking at a woman (at your local coffee joint, in the office, on the street) and passing some kind of judgment, let’s call out a positive attribute of hers and announce it here.
Let’s add some positive energy to the blogosphere, and sing our own praises and the praises of other women. Let’s get this week off to a good start.
I’ll start. I’m at a conference in Detroit and one of my good friends from college is here. She is several months pregnant, and she’s literally glowing. She’s always been beautiful, but there’s a definite glow, for sure! And seeing her so happy made me happy.
How about you? Have you engaged in body snarking? How can we stop it? And give a shout-out to a woman you admire today.