Fall Is Here: Dressing for the Figure You Have

Winery in Traverse City, Mich. (Nov. 2007) on our anniversary trip
Me at a winery last fall in Traverse City, Mich. (Nov. 2007) on our anniversary trip
This past weekend was the first that felt “like fall,” and since all the new fall fashions are out, I couldn’t be happier.

Autumn is my absolute favorite season. To me, fall is “back to school,” the Jewish new year, my birthday, my anniversary. And then there’s the chilly morning runs outside, vibrant foliage, raking leaves (awesome exercise), hot cocoa, football, apple picking, pumpkin carving, haunted hay rides …

I just love everything about it, but most of all, I love wearing fall clothes that are in “my colors.” As a red-head, I can’t wear the brights and bolds of spring/summer with ease. I’m much more comfortable in earthy tones, dark neutrals.

And I adore fall fabrics.

Give me sturdy handbags, soft sweaters, fitted button-downs, cords, tights, wool pencil skirts, wrap dresses, tall boots, fleece jackets, cozy hoodies, tweed dress pants, leather coats and belted trenches. I’ll take them any day over summer’s offerings of flimsy, flirty, barely-there fare.

Shopping for such goodies gives me a high that even rich dark chocolate can’t top.

But “back to school,” er, “fall” shopping (since I’ve been out of school for ages now!) wasn’t always easy for me, and I’m sure many of you who battled weight issues your whole life can attest to this.

As a pre-teen, teen, and even into college, I always wanted to dress like my friends, or wear what was shown in the malls. But my pre-Weight Watchers body just wasn’t cut out for certain trends.

During many shopping trips together over the years, my mom encouraged me in her own gentle way toward certain styles that were more suited for my figure, but it was frustrating to dress my shape back then. (With really big thighs, big hips and a small waist, everything gaped on me in the back and was tight through the thigh).

It took losing weight and becoming somewhat comfortable with my body to really “get it” on my own. And now that I have a much better handling on what works and doesn’t work for my body, dressing for my shape has become less and less painful.

Instead of standing in the mirror with disdain in my eyes or thinking I look “fat” (something those of us with body dysmorphia deal with on a regular basis), now I know which styles and fabrics work for me, regardless of what’s hot at the moment.

I am dressing for the figure I have, not the figure I want. Try as I might, even with a much smaller frame than I used to have, I will never never never look good in shorts, skinny jeans, or miniskirts.

And I can’t wait to enhance my wardrobe with some new threads this season!

How about you? Are there certain styles you like but simply aren’t the best for you? What styles let you flaunt your figure in a way that makes you comfortable?

6 thoughts on “Fall Is Here: Dressing for the Figure You Have

  1. Well, I love shopping regardless of my weight (shoes and purses always fit!), and I agree, there are certain styles of clothes that just don’t work!

    As an example, I have a wedding to go to in October, and it is simply impossible for me to find a stylish dress where I live that would work at an LA wedding…so I have been searching the net instead – avoiding all shiny stretchy materials, dresses with belts or spagetti straps, and instead only considering those dresses which suit my (slimmed-down) apple shape. In the end, I found a fitted, lined, black sheath dress made of a really cool material which I think will look killer! πŸ™‚ Now I just have to wait for it to go on sale…


  2. Oh, yes….I can relate to this! It’s taken me a long time to accept that there are things that simply won’t work for my body type. I’ve always had a booty, for example, and though I LOVE drawstring pants, I just can’t wear them. I, too, will never be able to wear skinny jeans (ummm…who can, though?) short shorts or cropped shirts (not that I want to….that is one good thing about getting older!). πŸ™‚

    The best thing about fashion is there are styles that work for EVERY body type. For myself, my go-to style is empire waist – whether it’s a shirt or a dress…I love it!

    I’m extremely excited for fall, too. πŸ™‚

  3. Oh Yas, I am sure you look amazing in that type of dress and let me say it: WHAT apple shape?! You look amazing now and I honestly would never even think you are an apple!! Hope it goes on sale soon!

    CDLover, that’s awesome you know what works. Empire waists rocks!! πŸ™‚

  4. I think that was the greatest gift that WW gave me — not feeling uncomfortable in the dressing room anymore.

    I remember not liking bathing suit shopping, underwear shopping, even regular clothes shopping. clothes just didn’t fit me right.

    Looking and feeling good in clothing and in the dressing room is the greatest motivator for losing weight. there is NO equivalent feeling to looking at yourself there and realizing, hey, I look pretty good in front of this mirror!

    I too am excited about fall clothes! your posting reminded me how fun fall can really be!

  5. Absolutely agreed, Cathy. I still hate bathing suit and lingerie shopping but I love pulling something off the rack and knowing it will fit, and if it doesn’t, I still have other options that I’d have only dreamed of before!!

    FALL CLOTHES … swoon!

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