Interested Vs. Committed

Our wedding rings, the ultimate symbol of commitment.
Our wedding rings, the ultimate symbol of commitment.
If someone asked me when I began my Weight Watchers journey, “Are you interested in or committed to losing weight,” I’d have surely replied, “Committed! 110%”

Back in 2004, it was so fresh and new. And I was committed, 110%!

Before Weight Watchers, I’d never dieted a day in my life, so it was easy to adapt it as a lifestyle. I knew nothing else.

I was learning to eat better, and to eat more sensible portions. Plus, I was working out more than I had been.

As a result, the scale kept rewarding me with smaller numbers week by week. My clothes were getting looser. And my confidence was soaring.

By the time I stepped off the plane in El Salvador to visit my then-boyfriend (now husband) in December, I was one hot mamita and man, I felt it!

But four years into this new body, the shiny-new-body-luster isn’t there anymore. I’m just “me.”

Not the girl who was shrinking before everyone’s eyes. Not the girl who could finally slip on designer jeans and not hate the reflection in the mirror. Not the girl who could suddenly spend 90 min. at the gym without croaking… Now, I can still do all those things…but I’m not shrinking anymore.

The thing is, I’m just “me” now.

I’ve put on a couple from my lowest, and I guess you could say I’ve taken a more “interested” approach.

Clearly, it’s not working; I still eat cleanly and exercise regularly, but the scale isn’t going down these days and my (much smaller sized) clothes aren’t loose. They fit just ok.

In order to knock off these nagging pounds, I must be committed to losing weight, to feel that “new love” feeling I felt when it was all so fresh and new.

To further explain the difference between “interested vs committed,” thanks to Molly from the Core board, here is an excerpt from Linda Spangle’s book 100 Days to Weight Loss.

People who are interested in losing weight:
1. Stick with it until something better comes along.
2. Take action only if they β€œfeel like” doing it.
3. Need to see results in order to stay motivated.
4. Blame people or circumstances for their struggles.
5. Easily give up when they face challenges.

People who are committed to losing weight:
1. Stick with their plans no matter what.
2. Take action whether they feel like doing it or not.
3. Assume that if they stay motivated results will follow.
4. Take responsibility for their own actions.
5. Keep going in spite of challenges and setbacks.

I can easily translate this “interested vs. committed” notion to overcoming disordered eating behaviors.
We all can.

The question becomes, how bad do we want it?

Right now, I am committed to two things. One is a tangible goal, and the other is more vague.

First, and most importantly, I’d like to make more progress re: disordered eating. I feel like I’m taking baby steps forward, which is a good thing, but I also have blips on the radar, which is part of the recovery process. (I realize this is a very vague goal: when is someone ever truly healed? I’m not quite sure).

And second, I’d like to be back at my goal weight (not unrealistic at all) by October 2, my 29th birthday. Not because I am being obsessed with my weight (trust me that is not my intent), but because I know where I feel my best, and it’s not right where I am today. (Fortunately, it’s not a long way away, either!)

I did it last time with an all-or-nothing approach … but this time, I intend to do it with a more balanced, harmonic “gray” approach.

For both to happen, I need to be 110% committed, especially since these two goals go hand-in-hand.

I believe that as I overcome the disordered eating issues, the anxiety issues, and truly learn to love myself and treat myself kindly … the scale (or tape measure) will help validate those efforts.

Until then, all I can do is try, and be faithful, two things I’m proud to say I do really well.

How about you? What are you committed to at the moment?

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12 thoughts on “Interested Vs. Committed

  1. I find it interesting that these two posts relate directly to what I was going to comment… and I’m glad I read them both before I responded to your question.

    Your tribute to your friend was beautiful, he sounds like he was an amazing individual and we all have so much to learn from him.

    Right now, I am committed to raising money for The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society to honor my friend Courtney who passed away from leukemia nearly two years ago. Courtney shared a similar spirit as your friend and she was truly an inspiration in my life. I’m committed to helping find a cure and train for a triathlon, which will take place on Childhood Cancer Awareness Day. I’m chronicling my journey on my blog.

  2. ((Breanne)) Best wishes to you on your triathalon journey in your friend Courtney’s honor.

    Thank you; he was an awesome person in every sense of the word.

  3. Interesting…
    Me too, when i was overweight, and i wanted to lose weight, nothing would have make me change my mind about EATING or NOT. I had a strong will… and now that i have a healthy weight, i cant do it anymore and i feel like a failure, because i dont have that “strength” anymore. Sure, i still jog everyday and i watch what i eat… but i get easily tempted by a cookie or any other “guilty” food. Even my night eating was under control when i was losing weight, but now, i cant even control it and its getting bigger and bigger every night.

    Im not here to complain… im just wondering where my will is gone. Of course i dont need to lose anymore weight and i could stay as i am… but i want more and that is the bad thing. Why do i feel like i need to lose more and more, even if im pretty healthy and slim ? Why is it never enough? Because i know i could go lower if i wanted to and its pissing me off that i dont have that strength anymore and im ruining all my self estime by wanting more and not getting it…

    Stupid disordered eating πŸ˜›

  4. Exactly, the willpower was there, but it’s now not so much about willpower as commitment. Time and time again, day in and day out. It can be viewed as exhausting…or as our lifestyle πŸ™‚

    Good luck, Nikita!!

  5. I love this! I never really thought about it before. Usually we all start out as committed, but slowly drift to just interested, eventually making our way to apathetic. I know I’ve spent most of my time only “interested,” but when I am committed, obviously there are better results.

    I am committed to achieving a balanced lifestyle in all aspects. Like you, I want to be in that gray area. Gray is more forgiving, more realistic, and more manageable.

  6. Hi Kristen, so true–as humans, we tend to go at something with gusto, and then wane. A new job, a new love, a new body … the novelty wears off and we need to recharge it.

    Cheers to achieving the gray!

  7. I’ve truly gone from committed to interested in these summer months. When I first started weight watchers I followed the plan sure enough the numbers went down down down! But this summer I’ve lost sight of my goal which is to be at goal weight by my 21st birthday. I’ve gained back most of the weight I lost and have also lost control of my eating habits—goes to show that I really wasn’t as committed as I thought. Getting back to being fully committed to the program and committed to losing weight has been tougher than I imagined! My binge eating need to get under control first and foremost–and I think that the emotional side of weight loss is what I need help with the most. I’m pretty active but often eat out of emotion instead of hunger. I’m trying my best!! And your blog is so inspirational!

  8. Lisa,

    I”m working on staying committed, but you’re right that there are blips on the radar when we switch to interested. It takes so much energy!

    So glad the quote helped you. I loved her book, btw. Full of other good, practical advice.

    Breanne, I don’t want to appear to be soliciting, but my business is selling ‘back bibs’ with pictures and quotes about loved ones for people to wear for races to honor their loved ones. We do quite a bit of work with various Team in Training chapters. You can see examples at http://www.races2remember.com Good luck with your training! Which race are you doing?

  9. Good luck to you, Krystyna. Not eating out of emotion is hard–but one day at a time!!

    And thank you again, Molly!! πŸ™‚

  10. man, it’s just HARD isn’t it?

    my body is so used to being treated well. it’s been almost 2 years now since I re-started WW with the enthusiasm that got me to goal. however, I keep losing sight of things and in turn lose sight of my goal weight number…

    yes, it’s not as easy as the first time we were introduced to WW. but now that we know the basics like the back of our hands (point counting, what impact certain foods really DO have on your system, what a serving of food is, etc.) we can start diving into more interesting nutritional issues. I never would have a thought 100 calorie packs were any worse for me than a tablespoon of peanut butter, but now I know where the bigger bang for my buck lies. I also know my body better than ever because I’ve been stuck with it longer at this point and also have tried more things with it. I know more than 3 servings of fruit a day can cause a gain and that cold cereal just makes me want to eat an entire horse.

    Sure it was easy then, but think of all you’ve learned on your journey up until this point. now all you have to do is apply those gems of knowledge to get back to where you want to be.

    the basics still apply, and always will. good luck!

  11. and also what I meant to say is that my body is so used to being treated well that it just doesn’t want to reward me for my good efforts like it used to…

  12. Good points, Cathy!! And it’s the law of diminishing returns…good old economics coming into play. The more effort put in sometimes (the more cooks in the kitchen) the less “results” you see. But it’s still worth trying!

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